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Anak saya berumur 2 tahun sekarang. Sejak saya berhenti memberi puting kepadanya, dia tidak lagi tidur petang walaupun dia sebenarnya amat letih. Sebelum itu, dengan adanya puting, dia akan tidur petang selama 3 jam. Bagaimana untuk membuatkan anak saya tidur petang tanpa menggunakan puting semula?

Anak saya yang berumur 2 tahun ini juga amat suka memukul kepalanya sendiri bertubi-tubi dengan menggunakan objek-objek di sekitarnya. Adakah ianya normal ataupun merupakan masalah serius yang boleh mempengaruhinya apabila besar kelak?

Anak saya jarang makan buah-buahan dan sayur-sayuran. Walaupun saya telah cuba memujuknya untuk makan, namun dia enggan memakan buah dan sayur. Apakah cara yang boleh saya cuba untuk memujuk anak saya supaya makan lebih banyak buah-buahan dan sayur-sayuran?

Anak saya amat aktif dan bertenaga, tetapi apabila dimarahi, dia tidak dapat mengawal perasaan marahnya. Walaupun saya cuba memperbetulkan dia dengan cara yang baik dan terangkan kesalahannya, namun dia masih naik marah dengan sesiapa yang cuba memperbaikinya. Kadangkala dia akan membaling objek-objek yang berada di hadapannya untuk melepaskan kemarahan. Saya amat risau dengan perbuatannya. Bagaimana saya perlu menangani situasi ini?

Terima kasih..

Asked by ida.azruddin - Posted 6 years, 5 months, 4 days, 12 hours, 13 minutes ago.

Dear Ida,

Thank you for your questions. As you have only stated the age of one child, i assume that you are referring to the same child. The suggestion will also work for a preschooler.

“Anak saya berumur 2 tahun sekarang. Sejak saya berhenti memberi puting kepadanya, dia tidak lagi tidur petang walaupun dia sebenarnya amat letih. Sebelum itu, dengan adanya puting, dia akan tidur petang selama 3 jam. Bagaimana untuk membuatkan anak saya tidur petang tanpa menggunakan puting
semula?”

Since you have decided not to use the pacifier any more, be firm in your decision. I suggest you think back to remind yourself how did you soothe him to sleep beside using the pacifier. What I mean is that , did you also have to pat him to sleep when he was using the pacifier? If you did that, you can continue to pat him to sleep without the pacifier. Another way is to go into the room with him when it is almost time for him to have a nap. You can ‘pretend ’ to sleep and he will ‘run’ around but do not pay him any attention. Gradually when he is tired and have no attention, he will also sleep. Be consistent, patient and give him time. some children take up to 4 weeks to learn to self soothe.

“Anak saya yang berumur 2 tahun ini juga amat suka memukul kepalanya sendiri bertubi-tubi dengan menggunakan objek-objek di sekitarnya. Adakah ianya normal ataupun merupakan masalah serius yang boleh mempengaruhinya apabila besar kelak?”

Unfortunately, Ida,you did not say why or when your child hits his head. If he does that when he is frustrated or throwing a tantrum ( when he cannot get what he wants) I suggest that you try to minimize the trigger factors that causes him to have a tantrum. Keep things that he is not suppose to touch out of his reach and out of sight. Be gentle but firm when dealing with his demands. Be consistent in your response and have the support from your family. If he does throw a tantrum and knock or hit himself, gently but firmly remove him from the the scene and put in somewhere when he cannot hurt himself. When doing this, have no eye contact , no talking, make no threats and pay no attention to his crying. Once he has stopped crying, return him to the activity or carry on with the next activity.

“Anak saya jarang makan buah-buahan dan sayur-sayuran. Walaupun saya telah cuba memujuknya untuk makan, namun dia enggan memakan buah dan sayur. Apakah cara yang boleh saya cuba untuk memujuk anak saya supaya makan lebih banyak buah-buahan dan sayur-sayuran?”

It is indeed very common for children his age to be picky with his fruits and vegetables. Sometimes the harder you try, the more they do not want to eat. Eat as a family and allow him to see how much you and your husband enjoy eating your fruits and vegetables. You can offer him some if he ask , if not, just continue to eat and enjoy the fruits and vegetable in front of him. Gradually he will want to try. when he does, offer only some portion so that he can finish what has been offered. Once he has finished, praise him. You can also make fruit juices, have home made ‘rojak’ that he can eat.

“Anak saya amat aktif dan bertenaga, tetapi apabila dimarahi, dia tidak dapat mengawal perasaan marahnya. Walaupun saya cuba memperbetulkan dia dengan cara yang baik dan terangkan kesalahannya, namun dia masih naik marah dengan sesiapa yang cuba memperbaikinya. Kadangkala dia akan membaling objek-objek yang berada di hadapannya untuk melepaskan kemarahan. Saya amat risau dengan perbuatannya. Bagaimana saya perlu menangani situasi ini?”

Children does not really undersatnd what is right or wrong at a tender age. They learn by example. Pay attention to what television show he watches or the peope around him. Does he behave like what he sees? If he watches television shows that are violent, stop those shows.You can try to set an example by showing him how you deal with anger yourself. Next time when you are upset with him, tell him that you are upset and maybe you want to be left alone.When he is upset,you can suggest he sits in his chair till he is calmer and if he is able to vocalise, tell you later why he is upset. Show him how to manage his anger by setting the example.

Best regards,

Jennifer Hor
United Kingdom trained Nurse and Midwife
Specialty : Early Parenting Skills and Parentcraft Education

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