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Surviving Long Distance Marriage
by IntanPosted on 18 May 2011
It has been approximately one month since my husband left to work overseas. How am I holding up handling two kids and working full time? It’s been ok so far, I did miss my husband occasionally but I guess living with my parents and with a little extra help from them and my sisters, it is not that bad.
As I did some self-reflection, I guess I feel proud of myself since I have never been apart from my husband this long, and to think that my husband will be away from us for around 6 months! The first time my husband informed me that he will be away for 6 months, I nearly broke down and cried. The morning that he had to go to the airport, I could not stop crying. After all, I used to be one clingy wife who loved to depend on my husband! When groceries run out, he was the one who bought everything. When I have to go somewhere during the weekend like playing futsal, he will be the one who drives.
It even got to the point where I asked him to fill the car petrol every time it runs out because I don’t know how to do it!
I guess the good thing that came out of this long distance marriage is I become more independent. No more asking somebody else to buy the groceries or filling up the petrol. Everything has to be done by me. I send the kids to the babysitter and then I go off to work every day. If my ten-month old daughter wakes up in the middle of the night and I am too tired to get up there’s no one else to comfort her to sleep. My son has started playschool every Saturday, so again I have to send him to school.
But no, I am not complaining. I got to the point where I am accepting the fact that my husband is away and I have to do everything by myself whether I like it or not. So how do my husband and I maintain our long distance marriage? Here’s how:
- Use online communications – it’s cheaper!
- Keep a daily journal – in my case I have my own blog where I update regularly so husband won’t miss on our kids growing up!
- Trust – I guess this is the most important. After all if there’s no trust, I don’t think you should be married at all!
- Regular phone calls – honestly I prefer talking via phone instead of chatting. Of course it’s more expensive than using the internet, but still nothing beats hearing the voice of your loved one!
Whatever it is, the kids and I can’t wait until he comes home again!
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