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To Work or Not To Work – The Biggest Mommy Dilemma
by MamapumpkinPosted on 14 April 2011
As luck would have it, I was made an offer recently that seems too good to pass up. For the longest time, I’d been wanting to write about this and suddenly, I am faced with it head on. My head has started spinning and I am stressed just pondering about this major decision – to return to employment or not.
I gave up a high paying stressful job almost ten years ago to bear children and look after them. My husband and I decided that nobody could take care of our children better and for that, we would just have to adjust our high flying lifestyle to one with a single income. It was very painful at the beginning but soon after my first girl started flourishing, we saw how worth it that decision was.
I’ve been doing this stay-at-home-Mom thing for close to 7 years now and truthfully, I was restless after Year 2, which is why I started blogging. Raising kids is probably one of the most challenging jobs we’ve ever had thrown at us and as a result, also one that brings us the most joy. Yet, it can also be the most boringgggggggggggggggg…………………..
Statistically, children who have one parent stay at home are generally better adjusted, more secure and perform better at school; just because who would nurture a kid more wholesomely than Mom who always has his best interest at heart? That’s not to say however that kids with working parents can’t be just as equipped. Should working parents pay the same quality attention to their kids when they aren’t working, technically, the same results should show. Besides, a kid could have a lazy or worse, a bad example parent stay at home, and this wouldn’t do him any good. So really, we’re working on case by case scenarios and there is no right answer whether a mother chooses to work or not. A mother who feels obligated to stay home will be a resentful Mom (hence not an ideal role model to her children) and a Mom who worries non-stop about her kids at home and is filled with guilt, can be a lousy employee.
A stay-at-home-Mom gets exhausted with caring for kids round the clock till she hovers on the edge of insanity. Staying at home means perpetual demands of you and there is hardly a minute of break time whereas at the office, you can go to the toilet for some time out, or read the newspapers during lunch. Staying at home means less money and always having to depend on your husband unless either of you are very wealthy. Working means financial freedom and more options. Do you want to be at home to greet your kids after school or would you prefer them to gain earlier independence whilst you are at work? Would you prefer to live sparingly or be able to buy the entire book collection without flinching?
At the end of the day, it is an individual’s decision and there really isn’t a right or wrong decision. Both have its pros and cons and both are very, very hard. Heck, parenting alone is HARD whether you are a stay-at-home-Mom or not! So what have I decided to do? I haven’t a clue yet but I do know that whatever I decide, I can always change my mind should things not work out. Of course, my kids want me not to work but it is only because they haven’t seen what a wonderful Mom I could be as a working Mom too.
Decisions…..Decisions…….Decisions.
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